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Freeing the Hijacked Mind
Dr. Fränzi Ng, Ed.D., TFT-RCT
Alexia was everyone’s favourite nurse: cordial, fun and competent, she was able to put her patients at ease the moment they met her. However, Alexia did not enjoy much peace of mind herself. A constant worry about germs and bugs filled her mind. Alexia did not see this as a problem; she loved cleaning and scrubbing her workplace and home. “It only makes sense that I would ensure things are germ-free around me. It’s part of my job. Not doing so would be irresponsible.” Alexia’s loved ones, however, saw it differently. They were concerned about her relentless preoccupation to sanitize her world. When does a virtue turn into a vice? Is Alexia justified in her actions or going too far?
Matt was in his late thirties, enjoying a fulfilling relationship and prospering in his business. Yet, from time to time, he would mull over his life: the choices he made, the hands he was dealt, comparing himself to others. Matt asked me if I ever did that. “Is it normal to wonder about how things could have been?” “Of course,” I replied. “Reflection is key to growth and transformation.” “But what if this reflecting turns into stewing that gets you all down about yourself? What if you find yourself falling into that hole more and more often?”
Sandra suddenly woke up. She was wide awake. She already felt her anxiety and frustration mounting before she checked the time on the alarm clock: 2:30 am. Sandra knew that if the previous two months were any indication, she would not get much more quality rest before she had to go to work five hours later. She would try to go back to sleep, but her mind would keep racing, uncompromisingly replaying the same conversations and events over and over again. Sandra was clear; she wanted this to stop. Now.
What Alexia, Matt and Sandra have in common is their busy, all absorbed mind. Sometimes the line between a desirable and detrimental preoccupation is clear; at other times this line is a bit blurrier. The key question to me always is:
“Is this life giving or life draining?”
If you have choice around cleaning your environment, it’s probably okay. However, if you can not freely walk away from the job, if the energy behind it is just too intense, concern may be justified. Likewise, if thoughts invite creativity, excitement and enthusiasm, they are certainly desirable. However, if they make you feel overwhelmed, cranky and depressed, you may be suffering from what I call a “hijacked mind.”
The hijacked mind is one that is taken over by thoughts and emotions that seem to have a life of their own. They can occupy large portions of one’s mental capacity, often drowning out focus, joy, creativity and peace. The hijacked mind is stuck in a rut, spinning its wheels, incessantly replaying the same tapes.
In extreme cases, these relentless tapes can even cause its “hosts” to have suicidal desires. Statements like “I just want this to stop,” and “All I want is peace of mind,” are common among individuals who contemplate taking their own lives. It is a desperate attempt at finally finding peace of mind.
For the past 13 years, I have been working with thousands of individuals from all walks of life and from all parts of the globe, who had that very desire: to find more peace of mind. Peace of mind from issues like:
but also more subtle issues like:
that can take over the mind.
These thoughts are like the wallpaper of our lives: they are so persistently held that one can easily fall into the trap of believing that “This is just the way the world is,” and “That is just my personality.” Rubbish! Our natural state is to be joyful, free, creative and energized - not hosts to life-sucking hijackers. They abuse the mind and corrupt our potential.
Freeing the hijacked mind is possible. Alexia, Matt and Sandra are real and they were freed from their preoccupations. The most elegant and effective way of achieving this goal is with Thought Field Therapy. TFT is a no fuss, no talk, rapid response therapy that can completely eliminate (not just distract from) those pesky thoughts, often in just minutes. Thought Field Therapy involves tapping on certain acupressure points with your fingers while thinking about a particular negative thought, issue or belief. Life draining thoughts thus can often be completely dissolved and peace of mind restored.
When working with my clients I would ask them questions like:
These questions allow my clients to identify and access the appropriate thought field or issue, so we can then eliminate it with tapping, often for good.
If you have a loved one, co-worker or neighbour who suffers from toxic, life-draining thoughts, tell them there is hope. Let them know there is a safe and efficient way of reclaiming peace of mind.
To find out more about Thought Field Therapy and to experience it, please join me for my FREE Live Demonstration Seminar on Saturday, January 16, at 1 pm at the Connaught Youth Centre Gym on 1491 17th Avenue in Prince George. For more details and to register, please visit my web page at www.DrNg.net or call me at 250 964 0118. I look forward to seeing you there.
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